Shiva : God of Death

Recently I have seen many couples have hard time understanding and working together. To me, it is because lack of responsibility, not really knowing what to do in their life/time, low self-esteem, gossip nature, comparison, etc., both sides. Just throwed my thoughts..

I have this huge question on my head for long time. I read somewhere that when you love someone you give them the ability to hurt you more. My belief is that if you take love as positive influence in your life - you will have a peaceful life - what might come. And in love just one person belief is not sufficient, the other partner if they contribute towards affection, love strengthens and it does wonders in life.

But, when the thoughts are different and things becomes materialistic, it gets tough as going. Sometimes we had to sacrifice our own dreams for our wife, husband, kids or parents, not that they do not care, but then circumstances and situations like health, sudden demise, natural disasters define and change the way we live and we wanted to live. Sanjay Gupta of CNN once mentioned that the world and the people live in fight from all kinds of sickness every  minute and everyday and people always think they are immortals.

The essense of life is the ability to feel immortal and how when love becomes negative, as the priorities of people around us becomes selfish, be it the middleman (bodyshoppers) eating money from consultants work, monopoly of telecom industries sucking the hard earned money, it seems overpriced and because of lack of awareness - how many things you and me would have spent, maybe a car repair, medical insurance coverages. Why the divorce rate increases nowadays? Women have been suppressed for long years in career, family and they deserve every right and safety to live in and lead on. They have to have self-esteem to regain and fight for what they need and deserve and everyone’s life is like that irrespective of the gender. But there is a small portion of guys who value and who truly understand the emotional needs and keeps an open mind on other issues for her. They are in every part of the world, both in developed and under developed countries - who understands and wants to support in every action their better half takes, its not 1920’s or 1970’s. That small portion of guys who take responsibility in their family, work, career, life and sacrifice every possible happiness for the betterment of next generation - gets hit hard.

In pune, everyday 7 people are getting divorced, this cannot be blamed on that girl or the guy. If your partner and if that person is no good - there is no point in thinking what would happen to them if you are not there, because they will never learn and keep hurting more. It is not worth to sacrifice a life for family or for next generation when all you have to do is bend and compromise and to get blamed. For girls, if your person is not right - you have to do what you have to do for your life. But, if your partner falls in this small portion as a good person, respect him and dont hurt - just because he gave the ability to you to do so.